Grief Specialist
Hi, my name is Wendy and I can help you navigate your way through grief and loss. Through a structured mental health and wellbeing programme, I can help you acknowledge your loss and give you the tools to let go of the emotional pain attached to your loss. I am here to help you start living in the present.
t: 07795 434131
I can help you with:
Death of a loved one
Pregnancy and infant loss
Divorce and loss of a relationship
My name is Wendy and I live in Wiltshire. I deliver a therapeutic mental health and wellbeing programme for people struggling to navigate their way through grief and loss. I provide the tools to help them voice and understand their emotional pain through a structured programme. This is my story about how it has helped transform my life...
In November 2021, I suffered the most devastating loss. Ben, my husband, died suddenly in my arms at the age of 44, without warning, leaving me and our young children (6 and 2 at the time) to live a life without him.
My whole world was turned upside down. Hopes and dreams for a future together had vanished into thin air. The emotions I felt after his passing were ones I had never experienced before, not even when my dad passed away a couple of years before that.
My coping mechanisms at the time were to get out of bed every day to just put one foot in front of the other, keep a routine going for both the children and myself whilst carrying around the biggest weight on my shoulders and being surrounded by the greyest cloud imaginable.
I felt like I was being physically pushed down whist trying to parent, look after myself and deal with all the admin that comes with losing someone. People would say how strong I was and ask, “how do you do it?” but to be honest, I was just surviving.
Imagine a duck on the water, it looks calm on the surface but it’s paddling like hell underneath. I had questions surrounding Ben’s sudden passing that I couldn’t answer: Was it my fault? Could I have saved him? What if the paramedics arrived sooner? Did I do something wrong? Did I do CPR correctly? Why me? Why him? Would I relive those last moments for the rest of my life?
I was torturing myself. I knew that I couldn’t carry on like that and reached out for help very soon after he died. Fortunately, through the powers of Facebook, I was given the number of a very special person, who helped start my life changing journey through an incredible mental health and wellbeing programme.
Very soon after my therapy, and to be honest probably during it, I knew that all I wanted to do was help others struggling with pain, sadness, regrets (insert emotion of choice here). I didn’t want anyone to feel like they had to live with it, that they had to carry on regardless.
I wanted to show people that life can move forward. Not the way we intended it to, but to see that there is a future if you just reach out and make that first call for help. It’s a very difficult word for us to use, but when we do it can be life changing.
So, here I am, three years after Ben’s passing, a fully qualified grief and loss specialist, certified through Edu-Therapy™. My passion to help others has grown during this time due to other losses I have endured but also from listening to other people’s losses.
I have survived and moved forward and so can you.
If you feel stuck, unsure about which way to turn, feel like you’re ‘just surviving’, struggling to find peace and happiness, I am here to listen with an open heart, no judgement, analysis or criticism. I will make you feel safe, heard, and create opportunities for you to move forward through your loss.
I can offer one to one and group support both online and in person.
My qualifications include:
Edu-Therapy™ Certified Specialist
Certified Rainbow Baby Specialist
Pregnancy and Infant Loss Practitioner Training